Tuesday, October 12, 2010

HAD A SPELL OF BUSYNESS!

Well it's been awhile since I've come to the blog. My mother is 86 and starting to have some serious health problems. Have had her in the hospital 3 times in the last couple of months. I knew that I was busy before, taking her everywhere she needed to be, helping around the house and taking care of her med's. But this time, it's really getting me down. She's had two falls and Tom and I have not been able to get her up on our own. We had to call the EMT's. I have one sibling and I'm trying not to complain. But it gets very irritating when he's not there to help out at all. He'll check in once in awhile and maybe go an see her every few months. And thinks he's done enough. But the good thing, is the Lord has blessed me with a loving husband and two wonderful grown children, and five grand-children that are there when I do need help. It could be very easy to go on a pitty party and feel sorry for myself. But what good would that do. And I'm sure that the Lord doesn't want me passing my time that way, when there is so much more GOOD that I could be doing. So the Lord and I stay in contact all the time now. There's nothing that I do or say to mom that I've not asked him for advice and guidance. I really believe that God doesn't make these situations where mom has gotten hurt and ill, but I do believe that he takes advantage at those times to teach and show us just how much we need him in our lives. On our own, our decision making, is not well thought through and we miss a lot of what he's lead us to do. So everyday I begin by thanking him for giving me the strength to do what needs done. And for all my family and dear friends that are there to support me. It's ok to ask for help!, which is one that I struggle with. But just that small time of away time and rest, surprisingly it is a huge gift that gets you back up and going. We have so many blessing right there in front of us if only we would open our eyes to see. The Lord is Good and he's with us at all times. If you have been a caregiver with an older family member or any age for that fact. Please share with us, so we can share our prayer's with you. Go forward and make this a day the Lord will smile upon us!

4 comments:

  1. Brenda, this caregiving role as 'baby boomers' is one of the hardest ever, I think!! I know there are others out there and it is my prayer that in time we all can be an online support to one another! PRAYERS!!! Blessings to all, Linda

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  2. I read your blog and wonder how I would have handled my life if I had to take care of my parents. My mom died from an operation so she went very fast and my dad was only sick for about 2 weeks before he died. Maybe God took them so fast because I would not have done a very good job of nursing them! I don't know now but I'm sure it will all be very clear to me someday. Just keep up the good work. Your reward will be "out of this world". I enjoy reading your blog and you and Linda are doing a great job. God is with you and guiding you. You are one of the lucky ones that have discovered his love and guidance. We have so many in our family that do not have a clue as to what we are even talking about. I don't know how they make it through the rough times when I have called on God for help. I always try to remember to thank Him when I get the answer to my questions. Sometimes the answer comes right away, sometimes it is days or weeks later but I try to keep my mind open to the answer. Keep up the good work.
    Carol

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  3. Carol its great seeing you on the blog, Thank you for dropping by. Be sure to sign up as a follower and you name will go in for the drawing for our party.

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  4. Stopped in to sign on as a follower! Thanks for letting me know about your blog! Hugs!

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